If you've already done my AWARENESS VIDEO COURSE, you know that while there is a spectrum
that GASLIGHTING behaviors and experiences fall on, no matter what,
chronic GASLIGHTING causes trauma.
Recurring trauma causes trauma brain - something science has shown to have concussion like impact! This can present a challenge when you're trying to learn new things, recognize patterns, and come up with solutions!
This understanding is at the heart of how I created my signature program; a program designed to not just educate you about GASLIGHTING – I want to help you TRANSFORM!
I want to help you shift CONFIDENTLY from
to MASTERING the information and tools
that will enable you to become
Why this program is your next best step
EMPOWERMENT is defined as the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one's life and claiming one's rights.
This program is what will move you into that EMPOWERED place of being connected to your knowing and becoming resistant to GASLIGHTING by:
Deepening Your Understanding
I am here for so much more than simply educating you on the concept of GASLIGHTING, and when to recognize when it's happening to you. My end game is to provide you with the tools you need to NAVIGATE it in a healthy way. This program is where we build on the foundational information you learned in E1 (the Free Video Series), so you can truly understand all the moving parts of a GASLIGHTING experience.
Why? Because GASLIGHTING is tricky, complex, manipulative, and sometimes it can be so subtle that you really start to question yourself and your sanity! I will help you break through the fog of confusion so you are informed, confident, and ready to deal with any GASLIGHTING that comes your way.
Tools, Tools, and More Tools!
And we're not just talking about your Gaslighter/exes here (ha!). Empowerment comes from learning, practicing, and mastering TOOLS so you can use them over and over again. This will shift the power from external/others-centered power to internal/authentic-self-centered power (I often use the phrase, "Our place of authentic power is...") This is where you will begin to really step into your authentic power!
Some thoughts on if this options is for you:
(What is covered in each lesson)
You work through these elements in a variety of contexts; they are anchored in the more you engage them.
SESSION 1: The Journey Begins
We begin by getting familiar with the flow of the course, setting expectations for the work-load, stating intentions for what you want to get out of the journey this course takes you on.
SESSION 2: The Methods
Increase your ability to recognize GASLIGHTING behaviors by deconstructing the methods. You answer the question: "How can I tell...?" You will use these to create RED FLAGS that alert you to GASLIGHTING in the future.
SESSION 3: The Techniques
Starting to go a bit deeper, we identify the seven techniques often used in GASLIGHTING. We address the question: "Why/How does this happen?"
SESSION 4: The Tactics
Taking out our microscopes (not literally, lol), we zoom in on the finer details of how GASLIGHTING occurs. This is where you learn about things like: love-bombing, mirroring, double-speak, and so much more, and connect them to the different techniques and methods.
SESSION 5: The Roles
Deepen your instincts and inner wisdom by identifying the different roles a Gaslighter may take on. We link the ties between the tactics, techniques and traits the different roles exemplify.
SESSION 6: Why We're Vulnerable
Explore the ways we are both externally and internally pre-disposed to being vulnerable to GASLIGHTING. We answer the question - "Why does this happen to me?". Learn to use this new awareness to alert yourself to the areas you need to pay special attention to as you engage those around you. You don't CHANGE who you are. You get to VALUE who you are and see your vulnerabilities simply as the areas where you need to create boundaries (aka protection).
SESSION 7: Gaslighting Risks and Traps
This is a pivotal week you get to dive into your internal world and reveal the reasons you keep getting sucked into the patterns of GASLIGHTING experiences. This week you will confront the question – "Why do I do this?", and learn how you can stay connected to your inner wisdom and empowerment in order to avoid falling into those same traps ever again!
SESSION 8: Deconstructing Gaslighting
You are now able to see how all the moving parts of GASLIGHTING work together: roles, methods, techniques, tactics, vulnerabilities, and traps. This knowledge gives you the clarity to see where and how you can BREAK THE CYCLE – it's like getting the superpower of x-ray vision and you can now see through the bullsh*t!"(Sassy Sarah wanted to come out to play on this one! )
SESSION 9: Relationship Healing
This is where we tackle one of the hardest questions: "Will they change?". By taking a look at how REAL change sounds, looks, and feels, you get a CLEAR picture of what YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO EXPECT from someone who says they're "working on it."
SESSION 10: Why We Stay
Honesty, courage, vulnerability, self-awareness, grace, tenacity. These are the things you'll tap into this week as you take a look at the reasons you are staying in a relationship where there is GASLIGHTING happening; you call out any reasons that are NOT in alignment with your values, and identify where values conflicts are keeping you stuck.
SESSION 11: Embracing Awakening
Get ready to spend some time connecting with your higher, fully awakened self! Step into the fullness of your potential, and imagine where your new awareness (thoughts, feelings and desires) can take you!
SESSION 12: Celebration
This final week is for you to bear witness to the awakening you have gone through. Validation, joy, recognition... you finish this journey the same way you started it - with intention and dedication to know yourself, love yourself, and trust yourself.
THE EMPOWERMENT PROGRAM INCLUDES...
From my own in-depth personal and professional experience, I created a program that incorporates “anchoring points” to offer additional support to help you navigate through the DECONSTRUCTING GASLIGHTING™ EMPOWERMENT program.
These anchoring points are what makes my approach unique! Why?
Because you will have
a tremendous amount of support
as you go through this course.
As companions for each lesson in the program, you will also receive a:
Musing: This is a question for the lesson; one that you come back to over and over throughout the week as you let the question sink in - maybe shake some things loose, and allow both your truth and your vision for your higher self to surface.
Video: Ranging in length of 10-30 minutes each, these weekly lessons are the foundation for what you will learn in the program.
Worksheet/Assessment: Each lesson has a worksheet or assessment that has been created to help you apply the lesson to YOUR specific situation. It can create powerful insights when you see your answers in “black and white”!
Embodiment Experience: Sometimes in the form of a game; sometimes in the form of an art project - these activities were created to help you “feel” into the lesson; it’s a way to bypass the obstacles your brain sometimes creates as a coping mechanism, and find answers you may not otherwise see. In these “backdoor” experiences, we often have big “A-HA!” moments, and come away with powerful validation and clarity.
Top Take-Aways & Action Steps: This anchor is about self-accountability! Naming the things that were impactful, sitting with what you need to do in response to what you’ve learned or discovered, and identifying an action step (or two!) to generate even a little forward motion - week after week - is how we begin to see BIG changes in our relationships over time!
Mantras: This is the space where you take those big, “A-HA!” moments/insights/action steps, and turn them into short phrases that ground you in your truth as you are trying to create new neural pathways in your brain - they inspire you to hold a boundary, not settle, not gaslight yourself, etc. An example in my own life is, “I define me!”. That came from the realization that I had been letting others have the power to define things about me, and I wasn’t going to let them do that any more. When doubt would arise, I would say this mantra and sink into myself with curiosity and compassion (and determination!).
Celebrations: This anchor is a psychological one - it’s about positive reinforcement! Opening the door to this stuff is HARD WORK, and celebrating our wins along the way - whether that win is holding a new boundary, discovering a truth about ourselves, or experiencing freedom in some new way - celebrating those wins tells our subconscious WE WANT MORE OF THIS! No thing is too big or too small to celebrate, and you can celebrate however you want. For example, saying, “I am proud of myself for asking for what I needed to feel safe, even though my partner said I was being too needy” is a celebration.
These anchoring points are incredibly powerful!
This program is for you if...
You have your own coach/therapist/support group that knows your story and supports you, but you want the information and tools this program gives SPECIFICALLY to address the GASLGHTING you are experiencing.
You've done your fair share of reading/researching on the topic of GASLGHTING, but you want to receive cutting edge information as well as fill in the holes.
You feel like you won't have that many questions as you go through the course, so attending a once-a-month live Q & A in my private FaceBook page (once live) OR scheduling one-off private session with me as needed will likely answer your questions.
You have a very demanding schedule, and need to go through the course at your own pace.
It's TOTALLY Okay to Want MORE!
If you've read this far, then I’m guessing you already know deep down that this program is right for you!
you want MORE!
If you gave yourself permission to choose the option that would give you the BEST, MOST TRANSFORMATIVE experience, which upgrade option would you choose?
Signature Program PLUS Live Group Coaching:
This option would be for you if you learn/assimilate information best when you get to hear others' experiences, questions, and answers as well as your own, and you know you'll want feedback from me every step along the way - even if just for 10-15 minutes (It's amazing how many breakthroughs you can have in these short periods of time!)
Signature Program PLUS Private Coaching:
This option would be for you if your need for SAFETY and PRIVACY are the most important things to you, in addition to being able to ask questions about the course, you want coaching around real-time things happening in your life and relationship(s).
The main difference is the AMOUNT of time and TYPE of time
you get with 1:1 support!
"Before Sarah's coaching I looked outside of myself for validation and didn't trust my own reality. Now, with a deeper understanding of how others gaslight us AND how we can gaslight ourselves, I know myself, love myself, and trust myself, and only put energy into the relationships that do the same. Her coaching taught me to raise the bar for my relationships and authentically live my best life as my true self."